In Korea, a common question in everyday life--whether it's at home or at work--is, "Did you eat?"
It's such a common thing we ask, it's more like a greeting. At work, it's kind of like if you were to come back from lunch, see a co-worker (that you're not close with), and they ask you, "How was lunch?" A friendly greeting of acknowledgement, it makes for good, casual vibes.
At home, this simple question can take on deeper meaning.
Of course, many moms in Korea are full-time SAHMS (stay at home moms). When they ask if you ate, it’s usually because they want to check whether they should prepare a meal for you.
But, the act of providing a meal is a deeply meaningful act in a culture where explicit communication is not the norm.
Many times, these acts of service and the accompanying “logistical” question is a replacement for what elders really want to say:
“I’m sorry.”
“I love you.”
“Are you ok?”
“I care.”